Advice dating man younger
Dating this much younger man made me see that I'm ready and open for something real again. Cougars are all the rage for men in their twenties through forties (although the latter are kidding themselves—they’re no young cubs).I realized that I chose to get involved because I knew I'd be OK when he and I did decide it was time to move on, because I've always been OK in the past.Granted, some endings are more painful than others, but as I've gotten older and been involved in more relationships, I have learned that the ending is for a good reason, and that my life absolutely goes on -- usually with me having learned something about myself and taking with me new memories and experiences.Almost a year and a half ago, I got out of a very serious and very loving relationship, one which I had put my whole heart into.Since that breakup, I've been all over the place, pretty much going from one guy to the next, not really making the best choices; probably, on a subconscious level, as a form of protection.But just what is it about women in the 40 plus group that is such a turn on?
It made me realize that while many people choose to shut down and close their hearts forever rather than feel pain again, I'm ready to not only open mine and share it with someone once more, but to also make better choices in I'm going to share it with.
through it, I had some very profound realizations about myself, love and dating. I decided to get into a relationship with him anyway.
And, not only was I super happy, it also proved to be one of the most drama-free, stress-free dating experiences I've had in years.
For the record, a) neither of us had any idea about our big age difference when we first met and liked each other, and b) apparently, I would be considered a puma and not a cougar, thank you very much.
But the thing that really surprised me is that something about the short-lived experience changed me... He and I had a talk early on about the fact that it was obviously going to end at some point, because we're just at such different places in our lives.